Is your schedule fairly busy? Do you find yourself tired of the pub/club scene? Are you having a hard time meeting people outside of your social circle? If you answer yes to any of these questions, then online dating is definitely for you.
1. Expand your dating circle: Where did you meet your previous potential mates? The usual responses are work, the gym, a bar or through a friend. Chances are you have exhausted those avenues and in some cases have realized that you are not meeting quality matches. Sure, they may be fun for a date or two but you quickly realize that things are going nowhere-fast. Online dating crosses those borders and opens you up to meeting people outside of your usual routes.
There are two schools of thought regarding finding “the one”; numbers vs. destiny. Numbers people insist that “it is a numbers game” where you have to “kiss a few (or few hundred) frogs” in order to find your prince. These individuals tend to favor online dating because of the sheer number of matches they encounter daily. Those believing in the notion of destiny may shy away from online dating because they feel it is less organic than say bumping into “the one” at their local grocery store. The fly in the ointment (or flaw in logic) is that if you are destined to meet someone, you could be destined to meet them online.
2. Connect to people with whom you have things in common: Technology does have its perks, one of them being the search function. Want someone who shares your passion for running or Conan the Barbarian trilogy? With the click of a button your matches are waiting. Some might argue-people lie. Well, yes they do but keep in mind that lying about interests will only result in dissatisfaction for both individuals. For example, lying about loving the symphony when you are a diehard heavy-metal fan doesn’t make much sense. So, by finding people you share common interests with you have a baseline to build from immediately. You have activities you can share and bond over.
3. Weed out the non-starters with ease: Have you ever met someone (not online) and thought they were great. Went on a few dates-the chemistry was there, but slowly things started to get monotonous. Take-out at home with movies started to get old but alternatives were not presenting themselves? This is an example of a lack of compatibility. Over time, this couple would tire of their “usual routine” and return to their interests spending less and less time together until eventually things end. Online, pictures are a starting point for chemistry and compatibility is facilitated through search and match features. When you see a profile you know doesn’t jive with what you are looking for-no problem move on. The process of culling the best match for you is simple, fast and effective. From the matches you think have potential you move on to the meet.
4. Facilitate a deeper connection from the start: Looking for a long-term relationship rather than casually dating? The great thing about online dating is that you can make your intentions clear. Those wanting to “play the field” need not apply when they see that you are interested in a more meaningful connection. This solves the “emotionally unavailable” issue many people come across when dating.
Have you ever met someone (not starting with online communication) and felt instant chemistry? You go out on a few dates, get hot and bothered for a while and hit a plateau with nothing but chemistry to keep you warm. With your introduction being online, you are forced to a certain extent to take things a bit slower than you might in person. Asking big picture questions can give you a feel for what your matches’ beliefs and values are and how they connect with your own. Then when you meet in person, you already have a solid foundation established that you can build on.
There are many more reasons why online dating is becoming so popular with thousands of new users each day. Your prince/ess could be just a click away. You’ve got to play to win!
Cordy is a romantic at heart who loves to write and share her experiences with life and love. She believes in “the one” and is currently exploring online dating as a way to find him.